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About Our Love

Temeka & Carol: College Sweethearts Finally Say “I Do”

Written by Temeka Smith

My wife, Carol, and I met in July 2001 at Voorhees College in South Carolina. It was the first time that either of us had ever been with another woman. I had to walk away from her because my family could not accept me being a lesbian.

For the next 10  years, I was angry, bitter, shameless, hopeless and resentful. In December 2009, I finally got the courage to LIVE for me!

I reached out to Carol, who is a stud, via Facebook. Of course, she did not respond until a month later, but we reconnected. It took at least one month before I saw her face to face.

Sparks Flew

Temeka and Carol's wedding rings

Temeka and Carol’s wedding rings.

I drove 2.5 hours on February 5 to see her for just one night.  All the sparks just started flying, and I was overwhelmed with joy. I left that night knowing that after 10 years, I still had her heart.

I returned the weekend of Valentine’s day. By the time May came around, I picked up and moved to her city. Carol proposed to me September 11, 2015, and by this time we had been together for 5 years.

Every relationship has ups and downs, but it’s how we handle it that makes me that much more in love.

Our original wedding date was September 10, 2016, and I couldn’t wait to marry the love of my life.

I wanted to marry her because after 10 years and four kids, I still had my heart on reserve for her. She completes me in every way possible, once we rekindled our love, I felt whole again.

When my wife’s father passed away, we pushed back our wedding, date. So the new wedding date was December 10, 2016.

A few of my Favorite Memories

Temeka and Carol standing on the stairs

Temeka and Carol stand together as wire on their wedding day.

When that day finally arrived, I was excited, and no amount of words can express what I was feeling. We had a very small, intimate wedding and I enjoyed every bit of it.

I had two favorite parts of our wedding: First was me coming down the aisle as she stood waiting for me with that huge smile on her face and a sparkle in her eye.

My second favorite part is when we said our vows to each other. I got so overwhelmed with emotions that I choked on my vows. Carol still said, “I do.”

Our day was filled with so much happiness and joy! I couldn’t ask for anything better. We are now Mrs. & Mrs. Smith!


Read more about how Carol and Temeka met and fell in love!

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  1. Bfears

    this is so beautiful

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