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20 Ways to Win Her Back and Improve your Relationship

Written by Knowledge/ Stud With Swag Whether you lost her because of something you did or you’re wanting to keep the love of your life right beside you, here are some critical tips that you must put into practice:

1. Never stop dating and courting her.

Do not take her presence in your life for granted.

2. Protect your heart and do not allow anyone else to enter except for her.

3. Fall in love with her over and over again.

4. Focus on the things you love about her.

Realize that what you focus on will expand and if you focus on Love and Positivity that is what you will be consumed with. Eventually reaching a point where you no longer see anything but Love.

5. Understand that it is not your job to change or fix her.

Your only job is to Love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. Not for you or anyone else. If she changes, Love what she becomes.

6. Take full accountability for your own emotions.

It is not your job to make her happy and you cannot make her sad. You are responsible for your own happiness and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your Love.

7. Take the blame for your anger or frustration.

They are your emotions and your responsibility. Own them. When you feel that way, take the time to look within yourself and understand what you need to heal yourself from within.

8. When she is sad or upset, it is not your job to fix it.

It is your job to hold her and let her know it will be okay. To let you know that you hear her and you are on her side.

9. Be silly more often, and she will be silly with you.

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Don’t take yourself so seriously. Laugh every single day.

10. Understand, respect, and honor your love languages.

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Also, be Patient, Unjudging, and Supportive, always. Practice those things.

11. Turn off your phone when you spend time together, unless of course you’re taking selfies.

Let her be your focus and have your complete, undivided attention. Be with her FULLY.

12. Be sexually dominant.

DeWanda Wise and Rebecca Naomi Jones in Someone Great (2019)
Consume and devour her with your strength. Penetrate her to the deepest levels of your soul. Allow her to melt into her feminine softness and she will trust and love you fully.

13. Don’t be an idiot, but I don’t be afraid of making mistakes either.

Learn from the mistakes you make and do better the next time. Be open to constructive criticism and she will forgive you with love every time.

14. Give her S P A C E so you also have time to nurture yourself and feed your soul.

So you can heal and re-center your balance. Always take time out for yourselves.

15. Don’t be afraid to open up more and share your deepest feelings.

Strive with everything in you to be the open book she craves to read.

16. Be transparent.

Especially those things you may not want to share. Open your heart and let her in. That takes courage, but that’s part of allowing her to love you completely; your darkness as well as your light.

17. Seek to find, cherish, and nurture your common goals, dreams and visions.

She will support your dreams and aspirations with love.

18. Lessen your doubt and worry.

Seek ways to work together as a team and to WIN together as a strong, cohesive unit. You are a TEAM.

19. Forgive and focus on the future.

Do not allow the past to hold you hostage. FORGIVENESS is FREEDOM. Always choose Love and Light. Love always endures.

20. Honor and respect her hopes and dreams.

Think before you act and consider her feelings as well as your own. Love is as much about sacrifice and compromise as it is about fulfilling your needs. Be the change you want to see, feel and experience in your relationship.

Don’t forget to love yourself!

Featured image courtesy of @ElleAfrikan on Instagram.

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    Complete words of wisdom! 20 great points.

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