Nikki and Amena, a Maryland couple engaged to be married next fall, have agreed to share with us their journey to the altar. Today they talk with us about selecting one of the most important elements of the wedding reception—the cake:
Black Lesbian Love Lab (BL3): What kind of cake were you looking for?
Amena: A cake that everyone will like.
Nikki: A cake that embodies both of our tastes. I’m a chocolate lover.
Amena: I like chocolate but I really love vanilla cake.
BL3: How important is the cake to your wedding ceremony?
Amena: It is an important part of the reception. I thought about having cupcakes even cookies or pie. I wanted to be different. But I like cake, good, old-fashioned cake! YUM!
Nikki: To me the cake is important because it is a symbol of the union and people look forward to tasting something sweet at the end.
BL3: How did you go about selecting a vendor?
Amena: We went to the Say I Do LGBT Wedding Expo when it was in D.C. and Edibles Incredible (our vendor) was there. We put our name on the list for a free cake tasting. When we had the tasting, we were hooked! The cake was SOOOOO good.
BL3: How important was it for you that your baker be queer friendly?
Amena: It was very important to me. I don’t want to do business with any vendors that are not LGBT friendly.
Nikki: If they are not queer friendly I would be afraid they would tamper with the taste or mess up the cake in some way. Plus, they would be judgmental and not easy to work with. But you may never see that in their actions because they want the money but you would feel it.
BL3: Have you settled on a cake yet? If so, which did you choose and why?
Amena: Yes! We chose three flavors. We want them to be a surprise. We choose these flavors because we think they will make everyone happy.
Nikki: And that’s all we are going to say about that!