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5 Reasons Why I’m a Proud U-haul Lesbian

  1. We believe in signs. Right after my honey and I decided to move in together, I went to get my car repaired. As I sat in the waiting room of the mechanic’s shop, this little old white lady sat down beside me. She looked ancient. I smiled at her and we chatted about the weather for a little bit. I’m not quite sure how it came up, but she mentioned that this summer, she would be celebrating her 69th wedding anniversary. I love a good love story so she definitely caught my attention. I immediately asked her to tell me more.

She told me they met right after World War II. They met through friends. They went to the same church and he kissed her after their first date. She said he had beautiful curly black hair and beautiful blue eyes. She grinned at the memory. It was clear that she still loved him. But what floored me was when she told me that they married after dating for six months!

When I told my honey this story, she laughed. For us this was a positive sign.

  1. Despite my anxiety, I never doubted that she was the one. My girlfriend is freaking awesome. Even when we fuss and fight, she never gives me any reason to doubt that she is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. In the past, I’ve moved in with girlfriends even though I had serious doubts about the relationship’s future. Not this time.

Not long after our first date, she said to me, “I’m the woman you’ve been praying for.” Her words stopped me in my tracks because it was true. On my literal checklist that I keep in my journal, I said I wanted a woman who was sweet, generous, affectionate, encouraging, loving, honest, hardworking, intelligent and just all around amazing. And funny. We literally wake up laughing. She is so easy to be around. (On our second date, she was so relaxed that she farted on me, which made us both bust out laughing.) She is everything I requested and more. We even had our first date on my birthday! How’s that for a birthday gift?

  1. Because we want to. In short, this relationship was completely unexpected. When we met, she was only looking for a winter cuddle buddy and I wasn’t even looking. But deep inside we both dreamed of creating a family with a woman we could call a homie, lover and friend. We both want the same thing with each other, and so we are going for it! We are making long term plans, starting a business together, talking about traveling the world together and planning a wedding. How could I say, ‘no,’ to a life like that?

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Zamara Perri is the founder and editor of the Black Lesbian Love Lab blog. She is a proud u-hauler who loves mangoes, cats, reading, cooking for her awesome partner and writing about some of the challenges and joys of black lesbian relationships.

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  1. Withlove, Tania

    Guess who is happy for you … ME!! I’ll admit I’m far from a u haul. I want everything. In order. Even though I’m a lesbian. However I strongly believe that everyone has to make their own relationship rules around what works for them. I wish you guys nothing but the best. And just in case you wanted someone to be as excited as you, I’m here ?

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