Black Lesbian Love Lab, Author at Black Lesbian Love Lab

Dear Lesbian Love & Advice: My Partner’s “Wife” Doesn’t Even Want Her

·February 5, 2016
·Black Lesbian Love Lab
·3 Comments

Dear Lesbian Love and Advice: Can I get some advice? My stud says she loves me, but she says she thinks someone else may be her soul mate. She has referred to this other woman as her “wife.” However, this other woman won’t even talk to her! I feel like she's only with me for now, but if the other woman were to suddenly show up and declare her love for stud, my stud would leave me in a New York minute. I'm torn, heartbroken and weary of it all. What's a black lesbian to do?

News & Opinion

Some disrespectful idiot making fun of masculine women.

Masculine NOT Manly, Vol. 2: Truth Be Told Studs Are Not in Competition With Men

·January 30, 2016
·Black Lesbian Love Lab
·4 Comments

Why do these men puff their chests out like proud pigeons when they see us studs with our arms around a beautiful woman? When they approach our partners on the street, do they realize that a stud can and in fact does “love her like he can,” and for longer too, if you want to get into the facts. Let me break it down for you.

This Love Is Revolutionary: Reflecting on the Power of Black Queer Love

·January 27, 2016
·Black Lesbian Love Lab
·1 Comment

In existing, navigating, and surviving as queer Black folks within a white supremacist patriarchy, it feels impossible to heal our own selves, yet alone offer healing to each other. In seeing each other, holding each other, and loving each other, we must engage in community practice and dialogue around what transformative love looks like beyond survival.

News & Opinion

Being single is all about living life like it's golden.

Don’t Put a Ring on It: Why I’m a Happy, Single, Black Lesbian

·January 22, 2016
·Black Lesbian Love Lab
·6 Comments

Society is hell bent on telling single women that if you’re single, your existence should be desperately dedicated to trying not to be. I'm a very happy single black lesbian. Every time I tell people this, they give me the side eye as if the words “happy” and “single” side by side are natural enemies.

Masculine NOT Manly, Vol. 1: Deep Inside a Stud’s Mind

·January 16, 2016
·Black Lesbian Love Lab
·16 Comments

Men are constantly weighing their own masculinity against mine. As if my clothes define my level of “almost manhood.” No one stepped up when a man threatened me in my own ‘safe’ space. No one notices the way they frown at me and talk to me as if my opinion of the world doesn’t matter. No one notices when people--even people in my own family--say, “well it’s a man thing, something only us alpha males understand,” as if I was trying to understand the way of men. As if I won’t always come up short in comparison.

Health & Spirituality

Ayesha and Cicely model their healthy new bodies.

Eight Years After Falling in Love With Her, My Wife Has Changed

·January 11, 2016
·Black Lesbian Love Lab
·1 Comment

I remember getting my gallbladder removed on December 25, 2010. It was a horribly painful experience, but it was the best Christmas gift I ever got. After that, I was determined to change my eating habits. My wife, Cicely, and I had been thinking about becoming vegetarians. After watching several documentaries that exposed the cruel environments that the animals lived in, that was it for us. We never looked back. Changing our eating habits was merely part of the battle. Our ultimate goal was to completely change our lifestyle—mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Dear Lesbian Love & Advice: I Need to Come Before My Woman’s Kids

·January 10, 2016
·Black Lesbian Love Lab
·5 Comments

Dear Lesbian Love and Advice: I have tried several times to date mothers and it just hasn’t worked out for me. I have no kids so it’s hard for me because I'm used to not having to think about someone who depends on an adult. Being childless, I am selfish, at least that is what I am told. But why be angry with me because that is what I'm used to? I don't like being last in my partner's life.

Calling My Black Lesbian Family To Get Healthy, Win Prizes

·January 4, 2016
·Black Lesbian Love Lab
·0 Comments

We at Black Lesbian Love Lab are hosting our very first giveaway and wellness challenge devoted to helping members of our community get healthy this year. Find out more inside.

How To

Seven Ways Black Lesbian Couples Can Dream Big

·January 2, 2016
·Black Lesbian Love Lab
·0 Comments

Everybody has dreams. When I was a kid, I dreamed of being a neurologist who would moonlight as an opera singer on the weekends. And as every kid experiences, my dreams changed over the years, and I bet your dreams have changed too. As we ease into adulthood, we simply stop “dreaming” up big dreams. My big adult dream was to get married, but shortly after my wife and I got married this past September, I realized that I, too, had stopped dreaming big. Here are seven ways that we dream big as a black lesbian couple.