Celebrating black lesbian love and relationships!

Author: Black Lesbian Love Lab

Celebrations
Tracy and Tiffany embrace at a table with bouquets and sand glass.

Tracy & Tiffany: A Divine Meeting Leads to a Two-Bride Wedding in the Bible Belt

Dating
Melissa Henry is a football player with the London Warriors AFC.

20 Winning Relationship Tips Black Lesbian Couples Can Learn From The Super Bowl

Every January or February millions of Americans gather around their TVS to watch the Super Bowl. This year is extra special because it’s the golden anniversary of the game. Super Bowl 50 is a big freaking deal. And if you’re a black lesbian who expects your relationship to last past 50 days, 50 weeks or 50 months, here are some great relationship tips to steal from the big game:

Dear Lesbian Love & Advice: My Partner’s “Wife” Doesn’t Even Want Her

Dear Lesbian Love and Advice: Can I get some advice? My stud says she loves me, but she says she thinks someone else may be her soul mate. She has referred to this other woman as her “wife.” However, this other woman won’t even talk to her! I feel like she's only with me for now, but if the other woman were to suddenly show up and declare her love for stud, my stud would leave me in a New York minute. I'm torn, heartbroken and weary of it all. What's a black lesbian to do?
News & Opinion
Some disrespectful idiot making fun of masculine women.

Masculine NOT Manly, Vol. 2: Truth Be Told Studs Are Not in Competition With Men

Why do these men puff their chests out like proud pigeons when they see us studs with our arms around a beautiful woman? When they approach our partners on the street, do they realize that a stud can and in fact does “love her like he can,” and for longer too, if you want to get into the facts. Let me break it down for you.

This Love Is Revolutionary: Reflecting on the Power of Black Queer Love

In existing, navigating, and surviving as queer Black folks within a white supremacist patriarchy, it feels impossible to heal our own selves, yet alone offer healing to each other. In seeing each other, holding each other, and loving each other, we must engage in community practice and dialogue around what transformative love looks like beyond survival.

Masculine NOT Manly, Vol. 1: Deep Inside a Stud’s Mind

Men are constantly weighing their own masculinity against mine. As if my clothes define my level of “almost manhood.” No one stepped up when a man threatened me in my own ‘safe’ space. No one notices the way they frown at me and talk to me as if my opinion of the world doesn’t matter. No one notices when people--even people in my own family--say, “well it’s a man thing, something only us alpha males understand,” as if I was trying to understand the way of men. As if I won’t always come up short in comparison.
Health & Spirituality
Ayesha and Cicely model their healthy new bodies.

Eight Years After Falling in Love With Her, My Wife Has Changed

I remember getting my gallbladder removed on December 25, 2010. It was a horribly painful experience, but it was the best Christmas gift I ever got. After that, I was determined to change my eating habits. My wife, Cicely, and I had been thinking about becoming vegetarians. After watching several documentaries that exposed the cruel environments that the animals lived in, that was it for us. We never looked back. Changing our eating habits was merely part of the battle. Our ultimate goal was to completely change our lifestyle—mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Dear Lesbian Love & Advice: I Need to Come Before My Woman’s Kids

Dear Lesbian Love and Advice: I have tried several times to date mothers and it just hasn’t worked out for me. I have no kids so it’s hard for me because I'm used to not having to think about someone who depends on an adult. Being childless, I am selfish, at least that is what I am told. But why be angry with me because that is what I'm used to? I don't like being last in my partner's life.
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