Our initial conversations were intriguing, had depth, and allowed us to see the parts of each other’s personality that most don’t get to see for months, if not years. So of course, for our first date, I was willing to make the 3.5 hour drive from St. Petersburg, Fla., to visit her in Jacksonville.
My partner, Eula, and I come from very abusive childhoods. For years upon years our bodies, minds, hearts, souls and spirits were slowly being destroyed. Still, we survived abuse, neglect, abandonment and unfaithfulness. Roughly five years ago, we saw each other at a pride festival. Eula says that was the moment she knew she found the ONE. At the time we had both been through very bad relationships, and I just wasn’t ready to be hurt again and I didn't want to hurt someone else either.
For me marriage symbolizes a step toward a future. And of course I believe in non-conventional relationships, but I always wanted a wife. When I met mine, I really was partly afraid I would lose someone so important to me without making that grand gesture. Another part of me wanted to show her how serious I was about being just as important in her life. We were engaged for five years and much to my chagrin I wanted to speed up that process.
Skye Jones daily doles out wisdom on life, spirituality, family and love to her hundreds of followers on Facebook. Her outlook on life and the obvious love she has for her wife, Alisha, and daughter, Jada, is so inspiring and a reminder to all black lesbians to never give up on having the life of our dreams. The couple graciously took time to talk with us about how they built their love and life together:
"I will not catch feelings for a bi woman.” But then I reached out to her and said, "Hello, my fellow Leo.” She replied, “Hello.” And from that moment, we were in trouble.
"True love is rare and elusive. It's possible, you must be willing to put in the work. I always knew it existed. This world is so "me first" that it…