Dear Lesbian Love and Advice: Can I get some advice? My stud says she loves me, but she says she thinks someone else may be her soul mate. She has referred to this other woman as her “wife.” However, this other woman won’t even talk to her! I feel like she's only with me for now, but if the other woman were to suddenly show up and declare her love for stud, my stud would leave me in a New York minute. I'm torn, heartbroken and weary of it all. What's a black lesbian to do?
In existing, navigating, and surviving as queer Black folks within a white supremacist patriarchy, it feels impossible to heal our own selves, yet alone offer healing to each other. In seeing each other, holding each other, and loving each other, we must engage in community practice and dialogue around what transformative love looks like beyond survival.
Dear Lesbian Love and Advice: I have tried several times to date mothers and it just hasn’t worked out for me. I have no kids so it’s hard for me because I'm used to not having to think about someone who depends on an adult. Being childless, I am selfish, at least that is what I am told. But why be angry with me because that is what I'm used to? I don't like being last in my partner's life.
You’ve gotten to the end of the relationship and you know it. You’ve invested your time, your energy, your love and yourself into this relationship but it has not satisfied your desire. It does not fulfill your purpose. It does not meet your vision. You’ve loved each other as best as you could. You’ve disliked each other for a while but tolerated each other for the sake of the relationship. It is time to move on. It is time to call it quits without the drama of shame and hurt.
There was a reason why it took me years to get around to dating a butch. I told myself that I just wasn’t ready to be out. That is partially true. The real reason? I just wasn’t ready to live in a world where my butch partner would be threatened every time we walked down the street hand in hand. This is something I never had to worry about with my femme partners. But now I do.
This holiday season at least one lesbian is receiving the best gift ever. The video of Lori Interlicchio announcing to her girlfriend, Alana Duran, that not only did their hearts match but their kidneys as well has gone viral and for good reason—it’s reminding us of what true love is all about. Black Lesbian Love Lab met with the remarkable couple to hear their story first-hand.
Dear Lesbian Love and Advice: I'm in my mid 30s. I'm grown, make good money, established and confident. I recently realized that I want my partner to bring as much…
Dating is hard these days and if you’re dating interracially, it can be harder to stay true to you. In an interracial relationship, normal relationship issues can be compounded by the stress of difference and discrimination. Three black and/or mixed race women share their tips for successfully remaining black and proud while loving a non-black partner.
Why do lesbians feel the need to move on so quickly after a relationship ends? You have one person who leaves the relationship and runs off into the sunset with someone new, and you have the other person who’s left picking up the pieces of their shattered heart. Social media sites like Instagram and Facebook have become a hub for lesbians to post about whoever the current love of their life is this week.