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How I Healed After My Long-term Lesbian Relationship Ended

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20 Winning Relationship Tips Black Lesbian Couples Can Learn From The Super Bowl

Every January or February millions of Americans gather around their TVS to watch the Super Bowl. This year is extra special because it’s the golden anniversary of the game. Super Bowl 50 is a big freaking deal. And if you’re a black lesbian who expects your relationship to last past 50 days, 50 weeks or 50 months, here are some great relationship tips to steal from the big game:

Dear Lesbian Love & Advice: My Partner’s “Wife” Doesn’t Even Want Her

Dear Lesbian Love and Advice: Can I get some advice? My stud says she loves me, but she says she thinks someone else may be her soul mate. She has referred to this other woman as her “wife.” However, this other woman won’t even talk to her! I feel like she's only with me for now, but if the other woman were to suddenly show up and declare her love for stud, my stud would leave me in a New York minute. I'm torn, heartbroken and weary of it all. What's a black lesbian to do?

This Love Is Revolutionary: Reflecting on the Power of Black Queer Love

In existing, navigating, and surviving as queer Black folks within a white supremacist patriarchy, it feels impossible to heal our own selves, yet alone offer healing to each other. In seeing each other, holding each other, and loving each other, we must engage in community practice and dialogue around what transformative love looks like beyond survival.

Dear Lesbian Love & Advice: I Need to Come Before My Woman’s Kids

Dear Lesbian Love and Advice: I have tried several times to date mothers and it just hasn’t worked out for me. I have no kids so it’s hard for me because I'm used to not having to think about someone who depends on an adult. Being childless, I am selfish, at least that is what I am told. But why be angry with me because that is what I'm used to? I don't like being last in my partner's life.

Your New Year’s Resolution: Break Up With Your Girlfriend

You’ve gotten to the end of the relationship and you know it. You’ve invested your time, your energy, your love and yourself into this relationship but it has not satisfied your desire. It does not fulfill your purpose. It does not meet your vision. You’ve loved each other as best as you could. You’ve disliked each other for a while but tolerated each other for the sake of the relationship. It is time to move on. It is time to call it quits without the drama of shame and hurt.
Rapper Aina Breiyon formally Temper looks away with baseball cap and t-shirt
Femmes have no idea what studs like rapper Aina Breiyon (formerly known Temper)

What Every Black Femme Fears When Dating a Black Butch

There was a reason why it took me years to get around to dating a butch. I told myself that I just wasn’t ready to be out. That is partially true. The real reason? I just wasn’t ready to live in a world where my butch partner would be threatened every time we walked down the street hand in hand. This is something I never had to worry about with my femme partners. But now I do.

Alana and Lori: “Matching Tattoos Are Overrated, Let’s Get Matching Scars”

This holiday season at least one lesbian is receiving the best gift ever. The video of Lori Interlicchio announcing to her girlfriend, Alana Duran, that not only did their hearts match but their kidneys as well has gone viral and for good reason—it’s reminding us of what true love is all about. Black Lesbian Love Lab met with the remarkable couple to hear their story first-hand.
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