For the first time in my work life, I didn’t feel the need to: pretend I’m single, convert pronouns from “she” to “he” to “they” or pretend that I have absolutely no social life outside the office. For the first time ever, I felt comfortable just slipping my real personal life into regular conversations. After 15 years as a black queer working professional, I felt absolutely comfortable just being myself.
October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, which means everybody and their mama is busting out pink ribbons. As someone whose butch/stud identified partner has survived breast cancer, I can tell you that pink ribbons mean nothing in our household.
We've all heard the saying, what she doesn't know won't hurt her. I don't believe that and neither should you. Lies destroy lives. Let me tell you how.
From the very beginning, she made it clear that food was one of her top three pleasures in life. It turns out that enjoying a good home-cooked meal is one of the passions we share and so it is not surprising that food has been central to our relationship. In fact, knowing how to cook played a big part in me stealing her heart.
There are many lesbians who are not having great sex because their partners or church or society or porn has dictated to them that pleasure has to look a certain way. I'm grateful to have learned to think differently. Here's how I broke through that mental block.
It seems like attractive, healthy, sweet, caring, professionally employed, god-fearing black lesbians like Channing are ONLY capable of attracting crazy, violent, drug abusing women.
You’re not happy with your sex life. Her children are rude as hell. She disrespected you some how. You're feeling jealous or insecure about another person in her life. You want her to contribute more to the bills. Or you were snooping in her phone and discovered something shocking.
Why would you date a woman fresh out of a relationship? The cold truth is that you're a rebound and she definitely ain't thinking about you, take it from someone who has been there and done that.