Poor Communication Skills. Believe it or not, but most women don’t wake up dreaming of a woman who will yell at her, speak to her unkindly, refuse to share her feelings and break down her confidence on a daily basis.
We say we love her, but our actions or inactions send a different message.
Poor communication skills can build walls between you and your wife, partner or boo thang. And before you know it, you’ll break up and you don’t know why. Take a look at verbal and non-verbal communication and I guarantee you’ll find the answer.
No Shared Goals. Admit it, sometimes you get into a relationship with someone simply because she is cute, convenient or you’re bored. Years later you have moved in together but you have nothing in common. I’ve been there done that. There’s no rule that says you have to marry or even live with a woman simply because you share a mutual attraction. If you want your relationship to go the distance, you need a little bit more than that.
People tend to think that my honey and me are an odd couple. On the surface we seem so different. But honestly, we share more values than not. We are simple people who dream of running our own businesses and living overseas. We also love reading, writing and nature.
If you can’t grow together, then you will grow apart when the sexual excitement fizzles. If you have no shared goals, then what’s keeping you together? A business? A family? A dream? Think about it.
One of y’all is not a lesbian. This one is pretty obvious but happens all the time. Lesbians seem to loooove chasing and dating straight women and get upset when things don’t work out. I’ve never really understood why, but I’ve watched my lesbian friends who say they want to marry and have a family with a woman spend more time than they should with women who clearly want to marry and have children with a man. Don’t confuse friendship and affection with love. Putting a ring on it doesn’t change a thing. The heart wants what the heart wants and you can’t love her enough for the both of you.
So, are any of the above the real reasons why Brittney and Glory’s relationship blew up? Yes. I want to see more healthy black lesbian relationships. If we are honest with ourselves and are serious about making our homes safe places, then we increase our chances of having a successful relationship. If you’re not committed to doing that, then you’re just wasting each other’s time.