Celebrating black lesbian love and relationships!
Health & Spirituality

Five Surprising Ways Lesbians Can Practice Sublime Tantric Sex

Reaching an orgasm is not the goal of tantra.

Reaching an orgasm is not the goal of tantra.

Written By Miss Kitty

What is Tantra?

Tantra is composed of Sanskrit words and has several ways it can be understood. It means “the way” but also “methods” and, in an expanded sense “methods of going beyond.” It can mean “transformation,” “expansion” and “weaving.” Tantra embraces every single aspect of our life experience; it weaves together all its many aspects. Tantra is an ancient spiritual path that predates many of the world’s established religions. However, Tantra is not itself a religion, as it requires no prior belief, but simply a willingness to investigate. Tantra is a method of investigation, it is a way of living that helps us to open our hearts and minds and celebrate the whole of life.

What is Tantra Known For?

Tantra is well known for being associated with “spiritual sex” or “sacred sexuality. It is a belief that sex in itself ought to be recognized as a sacred act, which is capable of elevating its participants to a more sublime spiritual plane. Though “Lesbian Kama Sutra” has adopted many of the concepts and terminology of Indian Tantra, it omits the traditional reliance on guruparampara (the guidance of a guru), and traditional rules of conduct—both moral and ritualistic. We are mostly concerned with the extensive meditative practice of Tantra.

Tantra has become a more contemporary “Kama Sutra.” The “Kama Sutra” deals with the subtleties and technicalities of sexuality and was originally designed for the privileged class of Hindu society. Tantra is also a guide to passionate self-expression and proposes methods through meditation to achieve subjective awareness utilizing the five senses, seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, and touch/feeling, to explore sensitivity and intimacy through dynamic meditation.

Below are five tips for sublime and sacred lesbian tantric sex:

1. Take it Slow

Foreplay is essential in Tantra. A leisurely, slow build helps one control longevity and arousal. The longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.

2. Leave Your Eyes Open  

Making love with your eyes open is one of the fundamentals of deep connection in intimacy. It is actually a lot harder to do than you might think. Move toward this idea as an intention rather than a rule and be amazed as the collection of glimpses that will reshape how you think about your partner and yourself. It is not easy to be seen, even by the people we love. Truly witnessing the act of love is profoundly transformative.

3. Breathe In Your Lover … Literally!

Breathing in harmony is one of the easiest ways to sync with your partner. Straddle your partner’s lap (called the yab-yom position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner. Becoming conscious about your breath is central to all yogic practices and is foundational in Tantra.

4. Create An Intimate Space

The space you designate for your love sessions should be a comfortable as well as playful and relaxed. First, clear the room of any attention-grabbing clutter. Next, decorate with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics. Scent is very important to our sensuality. So try natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang or rose. Make sure your bed is as comfortable as possible with soft sheets and a number of pillows. Lastly, choose a soundtrack of music that you both like. Play it softly in the background to enhance your mood.

5. Enjoy Every Moment

Finally, the big “O” is not Tantra’s main objective. Instead, you attempt to prolong the act, increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. If you focus only on having an orgasm, you will miss the amazing range of feeling and pleasure your love-making session has to offer.

Have you tried Tantra before? Tell us what you think in the comments below!

MIss Kitty

Miss Kitty is an author, energy healer, tantric sex coach and modern day priestess! She writes under several pen names and is an imaginary architect, a literary traveler and erotic arts master. Her line of erotica is a sensual feast for the mind and body; which range from soft and deeply romantic to hardcore and kinky. Miss Kitty also has a selection of books on lesbian relationships, dating, magic spell work for love and sex and much more! She is planning on releasing a book on lesbian tantric sex just in time for Christmas. Click here to visit her Amazon bookstore.

Facebook Comments

Article written by:

Zamara Perri

Zamara Perri is the founder and editor of the Black Lesbian Love Lab blog. She loves black love and loves mangoes, cats, reading, cooking and writing about some of the challenges and joys of black lesbian relationships.

Join the discussion

  1. Avatar
    Withlove, Tania

    I’m not sure if this matters but that the feature photo you’re using is alex elle and her boyfriend. They are a gorgeous couple but not exactly a lesbian couple. Lol.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: