Written by Zamara Perri
It all started when I posted a stunning photo of identical twin sisters on my Facebook page. Both of these ladies were good looking, very fit, with long locs and beautiful smiles. They were also masculine of center. Or studs. Or Doms. Or aggressives. It doesn’t matter how you want to label a woman who dresses in stereotypical “men’s” clothing.
Something about these beautiful women made some women get super hot and bothered. Some started calling them “bae,” some were ready to move to their city and others were planning to do some explicit adult things with the twins.
The rest of the comments were not surprising.
The Usual Suspects
Insecure men came on the page and hurled hateful and really stupid comments suggesting that these women were fake men. I blocked them.
Women came on saying if they wanted a man they would just go on and get a real man. I blocked them.
Christians came on and talked about how disappointed God was in these women. I blocked them.
Pseudo-intellectuals came on and tried to use tired, basic, ignorant arguments to explain that being a lesbian went against the laws of nature. I blocked them.
Why? Because ain’t nobody got time for ignorant, cowards who beat up on strangers over the Internet.
I also blocked them because although the Facebook page is public, it is directed at a very specific audience, black lesbians. I created the page specifically for those who are supporting, loving or being respectful to black lesbians.
People probably don’t realize or don’t care how toxic and violent it is to constantly beat other people down even if it’s only on social media. Black people, black women and black lesbians deal with so much shit on a regular basis. We need our spaces for us.
This post is not directed at these haters that constantly invade our spaces. Those people are clearly delusional. Why would they think their toxic and violent interactions would ever, ever make us stop loving each other?
It is 2016 and we are not going to go away or hide our love from ignorant and disrespectful bystanders. And we will not put up with their bullying either.
This is Our Space
This post is directed at the women who continue to support our page. Thanks for putting those trolls in their place and continuing to stand in your truth.
Black women have always had to carve out spaces where we gather to publicly celebrate and support each other. The Black Lesbian Love Lab blog, Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, GooglePlus Pinterest and Youtube pages are OUR spaces. They are for our families, lovers and children. It is a place where we can admire, lust after, embrace, support and even gently and respectfully ask each other to do better.
Despite the bullying, we will continue to serve up fun, informational and helpful relationship content (and some eye candy) exclusively for black lesbians.