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Make It Last Forever: Secrets From 9 Real-Life Couples


  1. Lapedra & Tamara

Dated on and off since 2006, took a break, got back together in 2012, married April 2014

Tamara: I like her so it makes it easy. I can talk to her for hours. It’s been like that from the start. We’re really close; there is no one on this planet I love more. We laugh and play and we argue but we are in it for the long haul.

Lapedra: I feel so lucky to be married to her. We are two different people so we are going to argue but we learn from that. I don’t really run away from every argument that we do have.

  1. Lia & Ashell

Together 3 years

Lia: We learned to work together. I saw potential in our relationship and what could be. When we first got together, we were happy all the time and once we started living together and seeing each other for who we are, there were some ups and downs.

Ashell: We clashed a lot, but never broke up. It took a lot of patience and learning who each other are. I held on knowing that this is the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. In my head, we were already married and I didn’t believe in divorce.

  1. Wendy & Rose

Together 24 years; Commitment ceremony August 2011; Legal marriage April 2013 

Wendy: I love her like crazy. Even after 24 years, it’s just gotten deeper. When we are mad with each other, we just let it out for a minute, then forget it a few seconds later. Sometimes we cuss each other out and talk about each other’s family members! Lol.

Rose: She makes me laugh and makes me mad too. We’ve got to vent, then we wind up apologizing to each other and holding or kissing each other. We know we’re not going to leave each other. We also do everything together; we even schedule our doctors’ appointments at the same time.

  1. Tracey & Renisha

Together 6 years; Married March 2012

Tracey: The only tip I have is to be honest and open about everything. Honesty is truly the best policy. I also would add to never make your mate feel second to anyone and enjoy each other despite any problems you face.

Renisha: I would have to say that communication is a must. You have to learn how to communicate with one another.

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Zamara Perri

Zamara Perri is the founder and editor of the Black Lesbian Love Lab blog. She loves black love and loves mangoes, cats, reading, cooking and writing about some of the challenges and joys of black lesbian relationships.

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