Nikki and Amena have been planning their wedding for about a year. For this couple, their wedding day is about celebrating their love for each other and the love and support they have received from their family. As we get closer to the big day, we asked the couple one of the most important questions for planning a celebration of this magnitude: How much does the big day cost?
Black Lesbian Love Lab (BL3): How did you settle on a budget for your wedding?
Nikki & Amena: We both looked at each other perplexed about how to answer this question. It is difficult to answer. At the start of this planning process we knew we did not want to spend a ton of money on our wedding but we did want to have the wedding that we wanted. We started with $5,000, but as the process went on we had to increase that number for several different reasons. Eventually we decided on a list of must haves, things we could do without and things we could DIY. After doing some research, we came to a budget that we felt was manageable and would get us the wedding that we wanted.
BL3: What do you believe should be the most important part of your wedding day? And how much did you budget for that?
Nikki & Amena: When we talked to married people they have all told us, “The day goes by so fast.” When we had our engagement party, I remember thinking that it went by in a blur. For this reason we wanted to make sure that we captured as many special moments of this day as we could. Photography was very important to us and we were not willing to skimp on this part of the wedding. We budgeted $2,500 for this expense. This is an example of having to decide between a must have and a thing we can do without. We had to decide between photography and videography because we could not afford both.
BL3: If money were no object, what would you do differently in planning for your wedding?
Nikki & Amena: We would have a band, a classic car and a videographer.
BL3: What item (s) did you have to cut from your wedding to accommodate your budget? How much did that save you $ wise?
Nikki & Amena: We cut a videographer because good quality videographers start about around $3,000. This was simply not in our budget.
BL3: What were you not willing to compromise on to make your wedding special and memorable?
Nikki & Amena: As we said before we knew that not having a photographer was not an option. We also knew we wanted a wedding cake. The alternatives to cake did not appeal to us.