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Marathon Love: After 27 Years, Rose and Wendy Are Still a Team

Rose and Wendy met 24 years ago in Baltimore.

Rose and Wendy met 24 years ago in Baltimore.

BL3: What do you love about each other?

Wendy: I love Rose because she’s smart, funny, strong and she looks really good. She’s sexy. Even after 24 years, I’m loving her more. I loved her like crazy then but now it’s just gotten deeper. And Rose is so talented.

Rose: I love that Wendy is outspoken. I don’t like passive women. I’m a strong person and I want a strong person. She’s smart, beautiful, gorgeous, all that! She’s talented. She can do many things like hang sheet rock, electrical work, she bakes and decorates cakes and she helps me with the yard work and landscaping around the house. We did everything in this house ourselves. Working on the house keeps us busy and we do everything together.

I know if something jumps off, she’s got my back. One time we were mugged in Baltimore. She jumped in front and I hit him from the back. We stick together through thick and thin. We have no probably cussing someone out. We are a team. Whatever we do, cooking or cleaning, it’s a joint effort. I cut her hair and she does my dreads.

Wendy: When we said we do everything together, we mean it; we even go to the doctor’s office together. We are never apart. People don’t understand why we are not sick of each other. (She laughs).

BL3: What happens when you fight?

Rose: She’s sensitive and I’m blunt but we get over it. We know we’re not going to leave each other. Sometimes Wendy will say, “I’m leaving,” I will get in the car and I’ll follow and say, “Where you’re going? You know we are not leaving each other.” We’ll go through the whole gambit, we’ll vent, let it out. Then we wind up apologizing to each other and holding or kissing each other. Then we go about our day like nothing happened.

Wendy: Sometimes we cuss each other out, talk about each other’s family members. We have a rule, we let it out for a minute, then forget it. Then a second later we are calling each other “honey” and “baby.”

Rose: Sometimes we’ve got to vent to each other because if we hold it in, we will explode. She makes me laugh and makes me mad too.

BL3: What are some of the benefits of getting married?

Wendy: We just wanted to do it for us.

Rose: But also we are buying our home so if anything happens to me I want everything to be put in her name so family members won’t step in. Our family know we been together for 24 years now but I want her to be secure. We didn’t do this just to say we are married because we are going to be together no matter what.

BL3: Tell us about your commitment and wedding ceremonies?

Wendy: We had a commitment ceremony August 20, 2011 just for family and friends, and we were legally married April 12, 2013 after they passed the law.

Rose: One sister didn’t show up but another older sister came all the way from Texas. We rented a section of the civic center here, had a bartender, open bar and catered food. Wendy bought her dress four or six years before that. She’s a planner, she drew out blueprints and knew where everyone was to be seated. The caterer said, “Ya’ll didn’t leave me anything to do.” We did the appetizers and he did everything else. We had about 60 people. It was beautiful.

Wendy: It was so special that we could exchange words in front of family members and friends. I was so nervous I was shaking and stumbling my words. It was our 20th anniversary when we got married and it went exactly the way I planned. Everybody had a good time. The kids were dancing and everybody got along. It was just special.

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Zamara Perri

Zamara Perri is the founder and editor of the Black Lesbian Love Lab blog. She loves black love and loves mangoes, cats, reading, cooking and writing about some of the challenges and joys of black lesbian relationships.

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    Milton DeVaughn & Mark Lacey

    As a dear friend of Rose & Wendy, I can testify that their Love for each other is very honest and true. They belong together fir so many reason. I was a guest at their wedding and many other events. I thanks God for these two wonderful ladies that I can now call my Sisters. I love them dearly and so does my partner. They set the example of how a gay relationship should be. Many more years together- and Maggie–Milton & Mark – Baltimore/ New York

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    Jerry T

    Wendy and Rose are very dear to me! We have become so close that we agreed that they are my God parents. They include me in everything, and their love for me is genuine. They have a unique gift to love and help others. They are always doing something nice for someone unconditionally. I thank God for bringing us all together. “We are Family!” jerry son.

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    Cheryl Parham

    This is a beautiful love story. I have known Rose and Wendy for all their time together and one thing I have always seen was their true love for one another. Don’t they even look good, together? Cheryl

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    Denita M.

    I love your story and testimony. It’s possible to love at first site. I thought i was crazy for thinking such a fairytale. But ? and wendy lets me know that there is a happily ever after. Blessing to you both all the way from Florida.

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