Written by Leah Glass
I’m on the dating scene for the first time in my life. I’m 50 years old. I have three grown children and 10 grandchildren. I was married to a man and then divorced. I had only been with women since then.
My first relationship with a woman lasted for 10-plus years. She was my first lesbian relationship and I took pride that she was the only woman I had been with. When I moved to the state that she lived in, I found out she cheated. So I broke up with her and moved by myself into the home I had bought for the two of us.
Now that I’m dating, I’m running into people who are sometimes shallow, gold diggers or just looking for sex.
And I’m not looking for any of that. My cousin’s mother once told me: “Baby, you can get f***** when you can’t get fed.” She is in her eighties but she was so right!
I’ve talked to some women, but they are not looking for what I’m looking for. And that is the relationship like my grandparents had–that forever type of love. We are all looking for love, commitment, loyalty, communication and respect, right? Wrong!
I’m starting to realize that some lesbians don’t want relationships and I wonder why. Well I could have just given you my opinion, but that wouldn’t be right. So, I asked some of my friends and family members. Here is what they had to say:
La: We as people make it so easy to just sleep around.
We don’t date. We just meet people for the first time and end up in bed with that person.
And the majority of the time that’s the end of that when you just give it up that fast.
I’ve hung out with studs in strip joints and at other events. A lot of women don’t have morals. All a stud has to do is smile at these women and they just drop their panties. These studs don’t even have anything going for themselves! Some of them have sex appeal that’s out of this world (swag). I also notice that some people are just greedy and want it all—the wife at home and that side chick.
Becca: Some people are very scared of commitment, some are still playing the field and some are hanging on to their past.
Kai: Most people aren’t being honest with one another. Everyone should just be honest and let everyone involved with them know what they are looking for.
What does Leah Denise Glass think is the reason lesbians don’t want relationships? I agree with what my friends have to say. I also think that some of us are just greedy and want the best of both worlds. And some lesbians are just not emotionally available for any one while some just don’t know what they want.
I think everyone needs to just be honest and look for that inner beauty instead of the outer appearance. Especially since what usually looks good on the outside is never good on the inside. Women learn your self worth and know that you are worth true love.
We’ve told you what we think, join us in Sappho’s Salon. Tell us, why do you think lesbians don’t want relationships?