The answer is yes. But in case you need permission or a special reason to play with yourself by yourself, science has come to your rescue. There are multiple studies proving that masturbation is not only a great stress reliever, but it’s also great for you health.
A few months ago we had a great discussion asking black lesbians what’s the point of masturbating if you already have a partner. In honor of National Masturbation Month, here is a recap that conversation:
Charmane says before she got married and was single, she valued her alone time. Now that she’s married that has not changed! She and her wife make time to masturbate separately. She says, “For me it’s something I enjoy and not a substitute for sex with my wife. At times I don’t feel like worrying about another’s needs or giving attention. I look forward to my private time and see it as part of my self love regimen.”
One woman shared that masturbation was her only outlet for sexual pleasure as her partner did not return her sexual affection.
Is Masturbation Only for Single People?
For some women, like Britney, partner sex is so much better than going it alone. She said, “I don’t do it now that I’m with my wife. I think for me it was something I did when I was single. Nothing against it personally, I just don’t do it now. My wife is pretty amazing.” Brittney did say she was open to watching someone else or her wife play with herself.
Theresa, said she honestly doesn’t masturbate at all. She said, “My wife and I have a healthy sexual appetite and I don’t really have the urge to do that and haven’t since I’ve been with her. She REALLY good in bed and I have no problem telling EVERYONE!”
Brandy says, “It’s with my boo, my sexy chocolate queen and sometimes by myself. All I have to do is think about her and just look at the pics she sends me and there it is!”
Temeka is very clear about the purpose of masturbation, “Well that’s one I don’t do at all. My fiancé use to do it while talking to me on the phone but I put a quick end to that. I told her she was wasting all of my nutrition! Lol.”
And for Alexi, masturbating keeps her “faithful and monogamous and it’s great stress reliever.”
I Masturbate so I can Teach Her What I Like
For others masturbation by themselves or with their partners helped them learn both learn what turns the other on: Marquis said, “My love wants to know what I need to be pleased.”
And some women like Chanel don’t ever need a reason to enjoy sex in all its forms. She says, “I have always masturbated and loved it – alone, with my boo, being watched (by my boo, not strangers haha,) phone sex, dirty skype – you name, I’ve done it . I’m in an amazing and beautifully sexual relationship right now and it has been incorporated.”
Clearly everyone has an opinion about the purpose of masturbation. But I’m with B.T. Express, “Go on and do it, do it, do it til you’re satisfied. Whatever it is, do it ‘til you’re satisfied.”