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Temeka & Carol: College Sweethearts Finally Say “I Do”

Written by Temeka Smith

My wife, Carol, and I met in July 2001 at Voorhees College in South Carolina. It was the first time that either of us had ever been with another woman. I had to walk away from her because my family could not accept me being a lesbian.

For the next 10  years, I was angry, bitter, shameless, hopeless and resentful. In December 2009, I finally got the courage to LIVE for me!

I reached out to Carol, who is a stud, via Facebook. Of course, she did not respond until a month later, but we reconnected. It took at least one month before I saw her face to face.

Sparks Flew

Temeka and Carol's wedding rings

Temeka and Carol’s wedding rings.

I drove 2.5 hours on February 5 to see her for just one night.  All the sparks just started flying, and I was overwhelmed with joy. I left that night knowing that after 10 years, I still had her heart.

I returned the weekend of Valentine’s day. By the time May came around, I picked up and moved to her city. Carol proposed to me September 11, 2015, and by this time we had been together for 5 years.

Every relationship has ups and downs, but it’s how we handle it that makes me that much more in love.

Our original wedding date was September 10, 2016, and I couldn’t wait to marry the love of my life.

I wanted to marry her because after 10 years and four kids, I still had my heart on reserve for her. She completes me in every way possible, once we rekindled our love, I felt whole again.

When my wife’s father passed away, we pushed back our wedding, date. So the new wedding date was December 10, 2016.

A few of my Favorite Memories

Temeka and Carol standing on the stairs

Temeka and Carol stand together as wire on their wedding day.

When that day finally arrived, I was excited, and no amount of words can express what I was feeling. We had a very small, intimate wedding and I enjoyed every bit of it.

I had two favorite parts of our wedding: First was me coming down the aisle as she stood waiting for me with that huge smile on her face and a sparkle in her eye.

My second favorite part is when we said our vows to each other. I got so overwhelmed with emotions that I choked on my vows. Carol still said, “I do.”

Our day was filled with so much happiness and joy! I couldn’t ask for anything better. We are now Mrs. & Mrs. Smith!


Read more about how Carol and Temeka met and fell in love!

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Zamara Perri

Zamara Perri is the founder and editor of the Black Lesbian Love Lab blog. She loves black love and loves mangoes, cats, reading, cooking and writing about some of the challenges and joys of black lesbian relationships.

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    this is so beautiful

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