Walida and Tamara who live in Syracuse, N.Y., celebrated their wedding on September 27. The two originally planned to marry in July 2015, but Walida decided to surprise her bride, Tamara, with an earlier wedding date. Walida made all the plans and kept the new date a secret until about a month before the wedding. They share their wedding story below:
Black Lesbian Love Lab (BL3): How did you meet?
Walida: We met almost three years ago outside of a bar called Daisy Duke in our local town.
BL3: What attracted you to her?
Walida: Her smile and body and the way she carried herself made me stop and listen.
Tamara: Her infectious smile and beauty attracted me to her.
BL3: When did you realize she was the one?
Walida: I couldn’t live without her in my life I tried and it drove me crazy.
Tamara: Because I knew I could not live life without her in it.
BL3: Tell us about the wedding. What was your favorite part?
Walida: The wedding was a little crazy but all our children were there and participated in the wedding and our best friends. The best part for me was seeing her dance with her father. It brought tears to my eyes.
Tamara: My wedding was hectic and beautiful. It started at 6:45 a.m. and ended about 9 p.m. It was special because all of our kids was there and participated.
BL3: Together you have seven children (four at home). Why was it important to have them all involved in the wedding?
Walida: Our children were very influential in our decisions. They wanted us together. They are all taking my last name … because they wanted to feel like a family all the way.
BL3: Were there any traditions that you kept for the ceremony?
Walida: We did our own little thing. I’m Muslim and she is Christian so there is no blending those cultures.
Tamara: We honestly didn’t keep any. We are definitely on our own page. The only thing I can really say was traditional was the white wedding dress.
BL3: Where was the wedding held?
Walida: The wedding was held at a local amphitheater because it was absolutely gorgeous.